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by Cathy and Frank James

  • ISBN: 0595386946
  • Author: Cathy and Frank James
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  • Rating: 4.8 of 5
  • Language: English
  • Pages: 138
  • Publisher: iUniverse, Inc. (June 21, 2006)
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  • Category: Self-Help
  • Subcategory: Death & Grief
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But Valerie's death started her family on a journey to overcome their overpowering grief. Over the course of a single year, thousands of families must deal with the death of a child.

But Valerie's death started her family on a journey to overcome their overpowering grief. In the process, she helped them discover a number of miracles the secular world would label as "coincidences. And they too will struggle to find answers to the very same questions as those raised by authors Cathy and Frank James: How do you help? Is there such a thing as "closure"? What do you say to a bereaved family? "It's the Journey.

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How a christian family dealt with grief after the loss of their daughter. What do you say to a bereaved family? The Journey Is More Than The Destination provides the pointers and guidance that will help any bereaved family, family member, or friend of a grieving Christian to endure the journey they must travel following the loss of a child. The James? son, Michael, attends Franklin College in Franklin, Indiana.

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His journey with grief began when, as a child, he witnessed a.Most people don’t ever feel OK or all right about the loss of a loved one.

His journey with grief began when, as a child, he witnessed a mass shooting at the same time his mother was dying. For most of his life, Kessler taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about end of life, trauma, and grief, as well as leading talks and retreats for those experiencing grief. How does the grief expert handle such a tragic loss? He knew he had to find a way through this unexpected, devastating loss, a way that would honor his son. That, ultimately, was the sixth state of grief-meaning.

Many parents who have lost their son or daughter report they feel that they .

Many parents who have lost their son or daughter report they feel that they can only exist and every motion or need beyond that seems nearly impossible. Confusion: After the death and loss of a child your memory may become clouded. You may find yourself driving and not remembering where you’re going. Loss of hope: After the death and loss of a child you are grieving not only for your child, but also for the loss of your hopes, dreams and expectations for that child. Time will not necessarily provide relief from this aspect of grief.

Hundreds of infants, children, and young adults meet death everyday. In the early evening hours of June 20, 1997, the life of Valerie Victoria James ended as the result of a car accident.Valerie was a vibrant, enthusiastic, beautiful Christian teenager. She was an integral part of her community and school, her favorite organizational activities, and her close knit family. But Valerie's death started her family on a journey to overcome their overpowering grief. In the process, she helped them discover a number of miracles the secular world would label as "coincidences."Over the course of a single year, thousands of families must deal with the death of a child. And they too will struggle to find answers to the very same questions as those raised by authors Cathy and Frank James:How do you help?Is there such a thing as "closure"?What do you say to a bereaved family?The Journey Is More Than The Destination provides the pointers and guidance that will help any bereaved family, family member, or friend of a grieving Christian to endure the journey they must travel following the loss of a child.
Comments (7)

Alexandra
I found this book to have valuable insights into some ways that friends and acquaintances can show their love and support to parents who have lost a child. It's sometimes hard to know what to say or do when we want so much to show that we really care. Cathy and Frank James tell readers some of the things that friends did that gave them comfort as they share their very personal story of grief and unimaginable loss. It's been several months since I read this book but those things have stayed with me. I'm thankful that they had the courage to share their story.
Wizard
As the older brother of an 18 year old fatal automobile accident victim several years ago, I was interested in reading about how another family in a similar situation dealt with this type of grief. The authors had an interesting method of delivering their message and sharing their feelings. Instead of telling a fluid, chronological story, they opted to share their perspectives by writing their own sections in alternating fashion. Most of the book focuses on the life of their daughter as opposed to the grief they felt after losing her, keeping the tone as uplifting as possible. I wish them well in their ongoing recovery.
Ionzar
Cathy and Frank James experienced every parent's nightmare when they lost their 17- year-old daughter Valerie in a car accident. Through a series of stories and thoughts, this book shares the life of Valerie, a vivacious teenager whose faith and positive outlook on life encouraged everyone around her. Valerie's parents focus on the ways God worked throughout her life, from the months just before she was born to certain occurrences after her death that gave her parents some peace.

After her death, many things came about to let Valerie's family know that certain things were meant to be--though certainly this knowledge didn't, as Frank notes, make it easier. However, God worked to help a chapel be built at the FFA camp where Valerie spent so much time, and this was an endeavor that seemed to help the family get through rough times.

One of the many good aspects of this book is that Valerie's father shares his thoughts as well. As the authors note, there are not as many books for grieving fathers as there are for grieving mothers, so including Frank James' point of view definitely adds to this book. Men will appreciate his perspective, and women will get a better sense of how men grieve in different ways than women. Cathy James offers ideas on how to cope with the day-to-day aftermath of personal tragedy, from visiting the cemetery to handling baby showers and weddings.

You will be moved by this book, and you will be encouraged as well--encouraged by Valerie's love for God and others, and encouraged by the strength, faith, and hope that Cathy and Frank have despite their greatest loss.
Barinirm
I think our Father was sitting next to Frank and Cathy as they were writing this book. It is truly a testimony to their faith and a labor of love for Valerie that they were able to look through their own grief to see that their story would help others in similar situations.

You will feel as though you know the James family personally after reading this book. They were - and still very much are -loving parents who know their children are true treasures from God. As I read "The Journey..." I felt I was given an intimate look into their most private lives, smiling and laughing through the stories of the James family as they traveled through Val's life journey, then being touched by their openness to share the events and God-sightings as she reached her destination.

The message you will most surely take with you is that there is no "proper" or "normal" way to live with your loss - the Lord doesn't care about "proper" or "normal," He wants to love you, comfort you, and help you find joy. I was so blessed by this book.
Blackstalker
I couldn't read it all at once. I had to take it in small doses. Just holding it in my hand made me want to cry and I was a bit apprehensive and that was largely due in part to the fact that I already knew so much of their story, but as I began to read and remember, I was drawn in by it all. I think what was most impactive for me was Frank's viewpoint and how a father in particular "postpones" his grief, being the rock of the family because of role expectations when in truth a father is just as much, if not more, devastated. I knew they would put into words my own feelings, emotions, pain and suffering that I experienced from the loss of my own daughter. It was like I could mouth each word they wrote in telling of my own personal agony. Grief is an individual experience, yet there are many aspects of it that those who have had the misfortune of losing a child, can relate to. This book is poignant, bittersweet and honest in baring the souls of two loving parents. God works in mysterious ways.
sunrise bird
This book is a must for grieving parents. I have read many books about grief after the death of my own young son to cancer and wish I would have had a book such as this earlier.

Frank and Cathy include everything essential that parents can benefit from with their own grief experiences. They deal with "what if's", forgiveness, anger, unimagineable grief and faith.

I read the book in one setting, could not put it down. I know that I know that the purpose for this book will be fulfilled. Loved ones dealing with grief will work through many of their own issues as they read how Frank and Cathy coped with this horrendous, nearly devastating loss in their lives.

The one necessary ribbon of hope throughout the book was their faith in Christ (and especially Valerie's faith) and their God's faithfulness which sustained them and sustains them still.

May God bless each and everyone who picks up this book. I pray it will change their grief experience as well as their faith experience.

Glenda Buchanan

West Lafayette, Indiana

Former Leader of Lafayette Chapter of The Compassionate Friends

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